Currently, I have many friends, including myself--boys and girls alike--who are stressed and anxious. There's nothing wrong with you; you just need to cut yourself some slack today. In our society, the strive for perfection is damning.
There is no true perfection, so no matter how hard you try, you can't really get to this goal--because the goal will change or not be as fulfilling as you thought.
Granted there are some goals that can be attained, like losing weight, passing that test, finally getting over a certain specific anxiety, but you're allowed to take a really long time to get there. You do want you can and then try to let go. Change doesn't happen overnight, but things overall will work out. I know too many people who suffer setbacks and think that they'll never get better or get "there"--wherever "there" is.
Cut yourself some slack. Seriously.
Quit hyper-focusing on those things you wish to change. Accept whatever your current situation is.
There is a lesson in less than perfect situations. You are wonderful human beings, but while individually unique, the experiences around anxiety are not unique. Millions of people have anxiety--take comfort in knowing that you're not alone.
Above all, believe in yourself. You are not broken. Take the time you need right now to get to that point of acceptance. From there you can move forward. Embrace the "setbacks" (they are not even setbacks, they are part of the journey) and celebrate how far you've made it. Believe in yourself; and when you think you can't, I'll do the believing for you. :)
Great post! I'd like to recommend a book for anyone dealing with anxiety -- whether low-level, high-level, or anything in between. This is the BEST book I've seen on the subject, and it's written in a friendly, humorous tone, taking the edge of something that can feel very uncomfortable. Here's the link:
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Thanks Valerie!!! I think that sharing experiences with anxiety is the best way to let everyone know that they are not alone. That is something that comforts me tremendously.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I am a big believer in affirmations and mantras. One that works for me, because I believe it is that "I will be okay no matter what happens."
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